Lesson:Dealing with Jealousy/ExerciseL1

Listening Exercise

<quiz display=simple> {Watch the video and complete the text according to what you can understand.

type="{}"} It's that knot in your { stomach _7 }, that mix of fear and anxiety that { materializes _12 } when you feel threatened by someone prettier than you, smarter than you. It can cause you to do something pretty stupid sitcom { level _5 } stuff, Just to { regain _6 } control. Things that usually hurt other people too. You're probably familiar with this feeling, It's what Shakespeare called The Green Eyed Monster. Today we're talking about { jealously _9 }. Here is the thing kids, jealousy is a distinctly first person emotion. It almost always comes from a place of insecurity, which you { ultimately _10 } project on others. The bottom line, jealousy isn’t about the other person, it´s about you. Today at Wellcast we're gonna help you work through this insecurities, so that your friends and your loved ones don't get caught in the cross { fire _4 }. We'll give you three coping mechanisms to help you keep that jealousy from taking complete control of your life, { ruining _7 } your relationships and making you look totally { stupid _6 }. I know you felt that viselike grip from the Green Eyed Monster, because you're not alone, it happens to { everyone _8 }. Study shows that children as young as six months grimace when their mothers interact with a dummy baby. It´s pretty much the { occupational _12 } hazard of belonging to the human race. We wanna be { loved _5 } and we do not wanna be ignored. { Unfortunately _13 }, long after we've { walked _6 } on our diapers we still become a little child like when we are jealous. Jealousy tends to come with the { specific _8 } set of blinders and the more jealous we are less able we are to, let's say empathize with others. For example, a study conducted by the researches of the University of Delaware found that { jealous _7 } people were more easily distracted and less able to perform simple memory games. So, let´s try to figure it out how to get your jealousy issues under { control _7 }. Take out your Wellcast journal, we've got a three step system for this and it´s simple: acknowledge; communicate; and resolve. So the next time you´re in a { situation _9 } where experiencing those extreme jealous thoughts, go into a separate room take out your Wellcast journal and calm down. Step 1: Acknowledge Admit it, you're jealous and you can't run from your { feelings _8 }. But by addressing your jealousy head on, you can keep it from taking on epic unrealistic proportions. Write down exactly what´s making you jealous and why. Let´s say you´ve just found out that your two best { friends _7 } didn’t invite you to that movie that they caught last week. put it out: my friends are hanging out without me, I'm scared they'll stop being my friend. It's ok to be a little { dramatic _8 }, it's just your journal. Step 2: { Communicate _11 } Now that all of your embarrassing thoughts are all on { paper _5 }, go get the real { story _5 }. Don’t have an imaginary argument with your friends in your head, it's only gonna make things { worse _5 }. Tell them how you feel about what happened. Be vulnerable and apologize to them if you've overreacted in anyway, because you might { have _4 }. Make it clear that you're expressing your feelings and not stating facts. Speak in "I" statements, I fell like you didn’t want to hang out with me because you're { tired _5 } of me. That´s your insecurity. At a certain point the only way to get over your { jealousy _8 } is to stop thinking about yourself all the time and see someone else´s point of view. Step 3: Resolve. And this will be the { hardest _7 } part for you, because now you´ll have to { listen _6 }. Your friends might tell that you´re overreacting and they might be right. "We know you don’t like horror movies so we didn’t think to invite you." Let´s recap? That big bad green eyed monster gets all of us { sometimes _9 }. But today, we learned three ways to keep it at bay. By acknowledging your own insecurities, { communicating _13 } with others and ultimately: listening.