Lesson: How To Stop Fighting With Your Wife or Husband/ExerciseL1

Listening Exercise

Watch the video and complete the text according to what you can understand. Ahh, , they start with such and until you start bugging the out of each other. He never like she is listening, she stops to even explain . When something just slightly happens, battle field living room . Here is the thing, there is a very simple way to get this. And it's gonna be painfully simple, on the painful. It's called The Imago Dialogue. Treat it like a game you have to . Choose who goes first, that person talking about something, anything. The person listens and tries to remember what she is saying. When it starts to get to remember, he says stop and then he repeats back exactly what she just said. Then he , is there anything else? If there's more she continues. Do this over and over and over until he says, is there else? And she says, no. Then repeat the thing back to her, everything. Now remember this is not editorializing, this is repeat back mode. The step is for him to say, “I imagine this makes you feel”, and tell her how that probably makes feel. Boom, that's it. Don't agree, or comment on it. Just listen and empathize. Then roles and do it again. Now little tip, this only works if you can the rules! So if your relationship has so much ahh, that you can't follow the rules, then a referee.